By P. Berman
What is wrong with me? I know better than this. I have to fix this.
Craig was sitting outside his apartment. He was cutting himself down. He had realized, few minutes after Claire got off the bus, that he had changed the name of his dog. What was wrong with him? How could he have made such a stupid mistake? He sat very still and captured a memory of his dad sitting at his desk at home. Whether at home or at the bank, his dad was always busy at work. The only difference being that at home, he would take off his tie.
Craig’s dad had been tough on him. Criticizing his every mistake, quick to punish any sign of laziness. But he always told Craig the reason for his toughness, successful men owned the world. Unsuccessful men were at the beck and call of everyone, even women. Craig had done everything he could to please his dad. There were times, while not exactly smiling, Craig could tell his dad was proud of him.
I have to figure this out alone. No one can know what I’ve done.
His dad would lose all respect for Craig, if he learned about this stupid error. His father never messed up the chase like this. No, if there was anything his dad was better at then banking, it was building new relationships with women.
I want to be with Claire. We have a date. What do I do about the dog?
Craig had shown Claire a picture of his dog Butch last week. Today, she had asked about the dog and he had shown her another picture. That was when his brain when soft and he called the dog Max. What a fool he was. He had owned Butch for almost a year now. His dog Max had been killed last year after being hit by a truck.
What if I just tell her? Is it that big a deal?
Admit a mistake? What could he be thinking! He could almost hear his father roar at the thought. No real man made a mistake, and if he did, he covered it up- no one ever knew about it. Claire would lose all respect for him if she found out– what a laughingstock a man who couldn’t remember the name of his own dog.
Okay, I won’t admit to a mistake. Can I risk assuming she didn’t notice the name flip flop?
The plan was to take Butch walking in the park. He would have to call the dog Butch; the dog was too smart to come if he was called Max.
Is it bad to make mistakes?
Is it only bad if you get caught?
Is it only bad if you’re a man?
Psychologist Jason Moser has studied mistakes and finds they make our brains grow. From this work, in helps our brains get smarter when we make mistakes. Do you think Craig would ever believe that?
To read more go to: https://www.youcubed.org/evidence/mistakes-grow-brain/